Bringing this back from the dead a little for anyone else's future reference.
I found some BH5 (wagon) bilsteins and STI pink springs on import monster, rebuilt the front struts with new seals and pressed an extra 30mm long bushing into the top. The original bushes barely showed any wear at all really but the strut it self does have some. Hopefully they'll last another 50-100,000km?? I used valvoline valplex EP grease too.
Before: gen4 front struts and standard springs (bh9 tophats). Standard bh9 outback rear struts with KSRL-29 'low' king springs.
AFTER: BH5 wagon bilsteins with STI Pink springs, 5mm spacers added to rear struts
Results:
Front: went from 342mm axle to arch UP to 362mm.
Rear went from 380mm axle to arch down to approx 360-365.
Car feels good and much more flat, haven't had a decent drive around some twistys yet. I'll need to get an alignment and try to sort out the rear camber and toe as they wont be great. MIGHT even look at doing a HALF body drop in the rear. Not sure if its even possible but it would be easy to make some spacers to whatever length provided the bolts and tail shaft are ok??
EDIT: On the weekend I removed the rear subframe/body spacers (and swapped the LCA front brackets to liberty units), put in some alloy 11mm spacers (stock is 32mm) but there was basically no change to the ride height. I was hoping for 10-15mm lift but I guess due to the locations of the pivot points and angles of the arms, it doesn't work out like that at all. Next I'll try to see if the tailshaft will be ok with no spacers and go from there.