Depressed/Suicidal/Psycho Brother, what to do?
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Posted 17 September 2008 - 06:04 PM
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Posted 17 September 2008 - 06:11 PM
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#3
Posted 17 September 2008 - 06:21 PM
Ok well basically, he isnt going 2 change just b/c psychs say 2. Its up to him 2 change on his own accord. Unfortunately this sounds all too familiar 2 me. Do u kno exactly what drove him 2 drug and alcohol use 2 begin with?
Sometimes ppl in this frame of mind need 2b shocked back in2 a more positive line of thinking, say if he has a child for instance - sometimes when a parent sees how their actions are taking its toll on their children it shocks them back in2 thinking "SHIT - I cant do that 2 my child, I have 2 try and change"
Duz that make ne sense?
I think it would be good for u as a brother to speak 2 him one on one about it and show him how exactly his actions r taking their toll on u and ur family and his relationship with his wife.
U could even do an intervention style discussion with everyone involved.
Talking to psychs about it urself might help u get a strategy and plan on how u can help him get thru this tough time.
Its obvious the drug and alc are his way of dealing with a more painful issue - what that is, I duno, but maybe u need 2 find out deal with that, then the rest may fall in2 place.
Depression isnt always due 2 drug and alc abuse, it's usually the reason they turn 2 it.
Try reading up on it on Y B Blue and I think another is Beyond Blue?
There's alot of useful info and some contacts on there that may help u.
Yet again, I'm so sori u have 2 cope with it - its a tough thing 2 go thru for everyone involved.
*big hugs*
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Posted 17 September 2008 - 06:35 PM
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Posted 17 September 2008 - 06:54 PM
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Posted 17 September 2008 - 07:00 PM
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Posted 17 September 2008 - 07:10 PM
#8
Posted 17 September 2008 - 07:26 PM
I said it It's not something u juz wake up and think "Oh I'm cured". It's not juz having a "blue/down" day, those days turn in2 weeks and months and like I can see in ur story, years even
I'll put it out there and admit it, I suffered with depression. Ur right it is a chemical imbalance in the brain, basically ur seretone levels are all over the place. I kno that outiside factors can trigger that aswell. In my case it was my illness which brought me down the depression path, that and ppl in my life. I've dealt wiv it daily, what I am saying Soop is it is not up 2 anyone but Pete's bro 2 seek help and help himself. If he wants help, he will listen 2 therapists, seek drug and alc detox/councelling or something like that.
When ppl told me, u think I'd listen? It wasnt until I saw a family that loss their child 2 suicide and heard/saw how it effected them and put myself in their position. Sure, ppl told me 2 "snap out of it and put myself in their place" b4 but wasnt until I saw it 1st hand that it hit home. I didnt change straight away, was a gradual struggle which I took on myself. I acted 2 everyone else I was the happiest person on earth, but deep down I was much the opposite. Only my direct fam could see how I really was.
Certain medication I had 2 take for my health related illness me made me worse, they brought me down something chronic. When I got off them, I was a clearer thinker - sure still had that tendency but some medications make the situation worse.
Hmm.. feels weird 2 admit that on a public forum....
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Posted 17 September 2008 - 07:28 PM
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Posted 17 September 2008 - 07:31 PM
#11
Posted 17 September 2008 - 07:34 PM
Aw That's awful Brendan.
That's true. I agree wiv u there in it's a fine line.. u dont wanna push the point.
That's a tragic story, man. Sorry 2 hear that.
As for ur other cousin, thats so good
Thanks Kells,
It been 5 years now, April 5th.. never forget it man..
My car was in his workshop at the time too (panel beater), I couldn't go in there for weeks to get my own car.. so I sent my other cuz to go get it for me.. sold it pretty much straight after..
Had 400+ people at the funeral, and police escort as he was in the racing scene and they allowed a convoy of extrmemely over done cars out on the road with permission from the boys in blue.. that day made me also realise another level of respect for the cops, they were great about it.. his brother inlaw / business partner, fixed the race car so he can take it with him.. we are talking about a 8.9sec torana that they built together,
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Posted 17 September 2008 - 07:34 PM
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Posted 17 September 2008 - 07:41 PM
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Posted 17 September 2008 - 07:42 PM
#15
Posted 17 September 2008 - 07:43 PM
thanks Brendan, that was Peco (peter) wasn't it. I think I spoke you to you about him before. Well my brother was associating with all those boys. They're all my numko's friends.
It's a shame people choose that path in life.
Thats him brother.. that is definately him..
So thats why im telling you man, please be careful Pete..
as I said, if you need to chat, I been here for the other forum boys, and more than happy to be there for you too man
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Posted 17 September 2008 - 07:56 PM
#17
Posted 17 September 2008 - 08:02 PM
Brendan it's now to the point he will say something and you agree, then he'll totally do a 180 and contradict himself then get agro that you thought... what he thought 1minute ago. It's crazy
I dunno Pete.. I dunno..
I don't know what your gonna do man.. he's tried a few avenues, and as seen, it hasn't been all the best in helping..
You can always call those Life-line peeps, and ask for advice?
#18
Posted 17 September 2008 - 08:23 PM
I dunno Pete.. I dunno..
I don't know what your gonna do man.. he's tried a few avenues, and as seen, it hasn't been all the best in helping..
You can always call those Life-line peeps, and ask for advice?
Yeh I think thats a good option. I'm sure theres a number u can call on that YB blue / Beyond Blue site. They hear these scenarios everyday
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