10970 replies to this topic

[B4TT]

I just use a 1/2" breaker bar with a socket on it and tighten until I am satisfied that it is tight enough without being over done, you want them tight but not so that you are hanging off a breaker bar tight.

[Zac]

Shit go Zac, doesn't sound healthy at al and doesn't seem like it's doing either of you any good, not too mention what may impact onto the little one.

 

Unfortunately, never being in a situation like that, I can't offer any advice other than you have my number (just not at 3am, that's Ash time )

Haha... no worries bro.. yeah, I don't wish this situation on anyone... the reason why she hates her life is coz its not how she wanted it to be. She thinks she is better off alone coz her dad passed away when she was young, so was raised by a single mum, her friends are single mums too for some reason and she has never seen a marriage work... so yeah, doesn't believe in them....

 

Yeah, I feel horrid for the baby.. she is so sweet and innocent and deserves to grow up in a home with both parents, but not one where the mum hates the dad... especially when he doesn't deserve it... I smile thinking about her, coz she comes up to me after I've been yelled at and feeling down and she will give me a hug out of nowhere... she is my little angel...

 

Thanks bro.. but I should be find... dealing with this for years.... truly years... but good to know I have good mates... even if I've only met you guys once or twice... LOL! Won't interfere with your Ash time mate..

[peteRS]

My stomach needs fod. I'm out!

[Adam]

I use the wheel nut thing from my subaru tool kit

[Zac]

Yep, if you need anything Zac just ask!!!

Can't say I would be as generous as you though, I would be booting her out quicker than I could pick up the phone, it's your house mate!!!

Ha thanks mate...

 

Yeah. well I still stupidly care about her and the baby... plus, she has a pelvis problem which started from the pregnancy, so she can barely walk...

[B4TT]

That is pretty cute Zac!!! make sure you keep lots of face time with her so that the mother doesn't try to brainwash her with shit.

[Hypnotic]

I use the wheel nut thing from my subaru tool kit

 

I use that to, I guess that's enough then, just always thought torque wrench was need, drilled into me from the days at Beaurepaires

[B4TT]

I use the wheel nut thing from my subaru tool kit

Haha, I don't even know where mine is, it was useless - it was about 15cm long and probably made out of play-doe.

 

Oh the breaker bar, right... that is what we are talking about.

[Hypnotic]

That is pretty cute Zac!!! make sure you keep lots of face time with her so that the mother doesn't try to brainwash her with shit.

 

I agree with this also, she is your little girl as well, not just hers

Haha, I don't even know where mine is, it was useless - it was about 15cm long and probably made out of play-doe.

 

Oh the breaker bar, right... that is what we are talking about.

 

*play-doh

[Zac]

Ok Zac, that is way too much for you to deal with by yourself. You need friends and their 'right hemispheres' to bounce off.

It actually sounds to me like Megan may have reasonably severe 'Post Natal Depression' and this is going to be a massive challenge for you, but I have a few suggestions for you that I'll talk to you about in person.

I know you are doing it tough right now, but you have made the right decision to share...we can help

 

Vulnerability is courage.

Thanks Pete.. dude I just met yesterday... lol!

 

She did go see doctors and phycologisists for PND, and I mentioned it to her before, but she just blew up at me saying thats not the issue, I'm the issue... and the professionals don't say she has PND either, but she does have depression. Everybody tells her it is me too, from what she tells them about me... so when I left last year for a month, people told her she seemed better and she thought she was happy too but then she did some bad shit, and bad shit went down, so I had to move back in too, and when i did, she was ok with it.. for a bit...

 

Thank for the help mate... and the advice... it is good to talk about it... rather than being cryptic about it... just don't want to paint a bad image of my wife or even of myself, being the bad husband and father...

 

Anyway, have a good lunch mate... take care

[Hypnotic]

Josh, do you find that Hola for google tends to work every second day?

[B4TT]

Yeah. well I still stupidly care about her and the baby... plus, she has a pelvis problem which started from the pregnancy, so she can barely walk...

You are a much kinder man than I! That is a good thing... but I would hate to see you get financially reamed because of it man.

 

Can she not go to her mothers?

[Zac]

That is pretty cute Zac!!! make sure you keep lots of face time with her so that the mother doesn't try to brainwash her with shit.

Ha yeah man... will do... when I'm allowed to see her.. yeah it is my house, but if I try to push for me to see baby too often, more often than Megan wants me around, her mother has threatened me with an AVO, like she did last year.... like I said... devil MIL..

[Hypnotic]

Zac, the only thing you're bad at is making a decision!

[B4TT]

Josh, do you find that Hola for google tends to work every second day?

Works fine for me man, never had an issue with it.

[Hypnotic]

Works fine for me man, never had an issue with it.

 

Hmmm, it seems to work 1 day on 1 day off for me, although the settings are always on.

It just started pouring down, and I need to go to the chemist (a legit one)

[B4TT]

Hmm that is pretty odd man...... I never even see hola, it just runs in the background and does it's shit.

[Zac]

You are a much kinder man than I! That is a good thing... but I would hate to see you get financially reamed because of it man.

 

Can she not go to her mothers?

Yeah... I will get financially screwed, but I'll live... I can make it work...

 

Checked it out last year that if I get a divorce, I'll pay child-support, coz she is my daughter, but that works out to just under a grand a month... lol...

 

Her mother lives in a granny flat in the back of her son's place... so no room there... haha... she has to stay in my house, and I want whats best for my little one, and that is being in the house I'm paying for.

 

Megan did however say she will be moving out as soon as she can walk... which she is thinking is in like 2 weeks time... so we'll see what happens there too... she'll rent a bedroom in a place, sharing the house with a guy I think, from what she says, and somehow baby will stay in the room with her... and they'll be fine she tells me... but we'll see what happens... 

Zac, the only thing you're bad at is making a decision!

Haha... do you wonder why now?

 

I made a decision to marry this woman, and look how it turned out? Lol!

 

Decision making is not my thing.... but I'm trying to change that...

[Hypnotic]

Haha... do you wonder why now?

 

I made a decision to marry this woman, and look how it turned out? Lol!

 

Decision making is not my thing.... but I'm trying to change that...

 

Hahahaha I now understand completely.

[B4TT]

Fair enough Zaccy! that might work out on its own then... shame you couldn't keep the little one but I guess that would be pretty hard with work and all at her age.